The C Word(s)
Years ago when I was dreaming up the vision for the business I wanted to create, I wrote a mission(ish) statement describing the essence of what I wanted the work to stand for. In the initial lines I wrote, “If you Want it, Choose it.” I then went ahead and opened the doors of the studio, ran a successful business for almost ten years, and then decided to revamp the plan; wanting other things in my life, while still trying to do what I feel is important work.
More than a decade after penning those words, they came back to me; on an opposite coast, while out walking my dog Sydney. I was flushing through ideas in my mind and goals I was setting for myself. Suddenly, right there, front and center, like the drum major of the marching band, squaring off on my path ahead, I heard them. “If you want it, Choose it.”
Ahhhh, that’s right. Choosing it, is the first step. Always.
Choice can feel like a precarious entity. It’s presence in our lives seems clear when the decision making is aimed toward options that appear concrete. Pepsi or Coke. Mac or PC. Charmin or the other competitor’s brand. It gets a bit more complicated when the choice has a heftier affect. Like, which career will I choose, who will I choose to marry, where will I choose to live? There are more steps involved, circumstances to manage, and stars to align. Still, there is something to measure, and therefore our control over choice feels more tangible. But what about the big ticket items in life? The ones that everyone claims we resent we didn’t have more of, when on our legendary deathbed. You know what I’m talking about. Things like Love, Happiness, Joy, Abundance, Peace…Health and Well-being. I mean, come on. Aren’t those the things that just happen upon us, if we’re one of the lucky ones, or if we’re having a good day?
Hmmm. I don’t know about you, but that makes me very curious.
What if we pause here to consider what Choice is? It’s the powerful little thing that shrinks the distance between you and what you want. That’s it.
I know, I know, it’s easier to choose which toilet paper brand you want in your bathroom, or which mode of transport you want parked in your driveway, than it is to choose an essence of a way of being in the world. Yes, choosing love, health and well-being may be more difficult, but, it’s possible. It’s possible because there is a process. When there is a process involved, there are steps to take. When there are steps to take, we have a set of instructions to grasp and measure our course of action. This is what we need when we get confused or lost or are just plain lazy. It’s the reason recipes and Mapquest work. (usually).
The process is kind of simple, and the steps all start with the letter C, which could make it easier to remember.
Step one. Choose it. That thing you want more of in your life.
Step two. Create the vision for it. What does it look like, and what do you look and feel like having it?
Step three. Commit to it Consistently. These are two very key words. You need to choose what you want again and again and forever again.
Step four. Change. Be open and receptive to this because it’s going to happen. Subconscious resistance to it will block it, and you’ll stay stuck. It’s scary- but use courage. (anther C word).
If you still have doubt, pick something small that you want, and apply these steps. Go through them methodically, and watch what happens.
With anything, it’s often easier to make the choice, and even create the vision. Pay attention to the sneaky moments of when commitment and change are required, otherwise your desire remains a fantasy in your head.
If you wanted to make a burger at home for dinner, would you drive out to a seafood restaurant and order cod? If you did, that might be silly. If you wanted to read more books, is scrolling through social media for hours going to get you there? Probably not. If you want to be more financially stable, would you go on a shopping spree, buying up beautiful cashmere sweaters? Maaybe, if in a weak moment, you weren’t sticking to the steps. (guilty).
And if you want more Love and Peace or Joy and Abundance, would you react in anger and frustration, or spend your time and energy with people or activities that deplete you? UGH. This is where it gets challenging. This is where you have to flat out decide to Choose. Create. Commit Consistently. Change.
Good Luck! If you ever feel like it, share with me if you find these steps worked! I love good news!